What is Orgasm Denial? Meaning and practices

Orgasm denial, or erotic sexual denial as it is also called, is a sexual practice which consists of maintaining a high state of sexual arousal for a long time without allowing the person being stimulated to have the final, sweet release of orgasm in the end. This practice is common when associated with BDSM and sexual bondage where it is very well received as a form of sexual play.

Some forms of orgasm denial are very different from what you might think because it involves very little to no genital stimulation. Actually, to make sure that there is not going to be any genital stimulation the person being aroused often wears a chastity device as a barrier in the way of manual stimulation or even erection. This device is called a chastity belt and they are available for both men and women. But still, despite the physical barriers, sexual arousal may still be achieved. Arousal is important, in that it keeps the submissive focused sexually and left teetering on the edge of orgasm.

Orgasm denial has many forms of practice and can be practiced by anyone who wants to. One of the forms of orgasm denial is tease and denial where the genitals are being directly stimulated to the very point where the recipient is almost at climax and ready to have an orgasm. At this point the person doing the stimulation backs off, leaving the partner in a high state of sexual arousal, without letting it have the final release of the orgasm.  Once that orgasm-free sexual peak has diminished, the dominant partner will often repeat this until it becomes a mix of pleasure and frustration.

In the situation of tease and denial there is the possibility that the one receiving the stimulation will have an orgasm even if the stimulation has stopped, but it won’t be as intense and it brings less pleasure than in a normal sexual act. These “ruined orgasms” can be fun for some Mistresses to cause, but they can also go completely against the strict definition of orgasm denial. A mistress who doesn’t want her slave to ejaculate during tease and denial will use a sort of constriction in order to keep this from happening and to see her slave with the legendary blue balls.

Another form of orgasm denial is “tie and tease,” when the person being stimulated is tied up so they can’t touch the person stimulating. This type of orgasm denial is actually very common in BDSM sex games and the emotions generated are both physical and psychological. The person being stimulated experience very intense emotions of sexual frustration due to the sensation of helplessness induced by the bondage. And with their partner’s sexy body so close, but unable to be touched, the frustration just adds up further.

In some sexual games, the stimulation and the sexual arousal is conducted in a very slow manner, allowing the person being stimulated to give feedback to the person doing the stimulation. This way the evolution of the act is much better registered and the person doing the stimulation knows when to back off just before going that moment with no return. This practice is called a deconstructed orgasm, and results in fewer accidental orgasms.

Orgasm denial as any other form of orgasm control is a perfect method of control and is usually practiced in master / slave relationships and in BDSM games because it helps the dominant character to maintain in total control and it sometimes helps in humiliation practices.

Just imagine if you will, a mistress and her slave practicing the orgasm denial game. He is tied up and hangs upside down from the ceiling while she is whipping his ass and massaging his genitals. This way the pleasure combines with pain and the orgasm is postponed to the maximum. But still she hasn’t had enough! When she feels that her slave is ready to enjoy his orgasm she mischievously backs off and starts dancing dirty in front of him, or just stands there, amazingly sexy, confusing the poor bastard and making him give up his orgasm. In the end he remains with blue balls and she enjoys satisfaction with a smile on her face: she kept control this time too!