What is Erotic Blackmail? Blackmail Fantasy Fetish Information

Erotic blackmail is a fetish within the scope of BDSM that is used by mistresses to exploit their slaves through the process of demanding something in exchange for not doing an action themselves. In similar regards to standard blackmail, the erotic version exists in a form where the mistress will make a demand and expect it to be fulfilled, with a threat being made toward the slave that a negative consequence will arise if they fail to follow orders.

It’s important to note that erotic blackmail differs from standard blackmail in that it’s consensual from the slave’s point of view. It would be highly unethical and improper for a slave to have to meet demands that he does not truly wish to do if he has signaled that he wants the erotic blackmail to stop.

Typical demands from a mistress for the slave to perform might include taking a picture of himself in a compromised state, transferring a certain amount of money to the mistress’s bank account or performing a certain sexual favor toward the dominatrix. A mistress might use threats such as revealing the nature of her slave’s kinks to his friends/family, not talking to him again or causing him physical harm (slapping, spanking, etc.) if what she requests is not met.

Erotic blackmail will usually never end in the mistress performing the ‘threat’, although if it is sensible to do so (such as cases of physical punishment), it may occur if the mistress thinks that the slave has not done what was required of him. A person that plans to engage in a blackmail fantasy should make it clear from the beginning that they do not want external factors to be influenced by the blackmailing process – this includes revelations to loved ones or employers – it’s important for any blackmail dynamic to include open and clear dialog as to what’s on and off the table when it comes to punishment.

Blackmail fantasies are often enjoyable for the person on the receiving end because there is a clear level of helplessness about their actions. It also allows someone to do something they normally wouldn’t do, for the prospect or ‘fear’ of the punishment coming to fruition is too much to handle. It’s important for those that wish to be blackmailed by a mistress to suspend disbelief when doing so: this allows the individual to become fully comfortable with the fact that they are being held hostage by the will of their mistress.

A safe word or ‘phrase’ is typically negotiated before sessions of erotic blackmail. This ensures that if the submissive feels the blackmailing has gone too far, they can back out of it immediately without fear of being punished by their dominatrix.