A cuckold is the name given to a man that is in a relationship with a woman where the woman interacts with others and has sexual relationships with them. There are two central aspects of cuckolding that are vital to the fetish: namely the activity being known to happen to the male, as well as there being a strong relationship and bond between the partners. This article will discuss relevant information to cuckolding and give a general background to the activity itself.
The first aspect of cuckolding – namely the element of the male in the relationship knowing about his partner’s adultery – is on a spectrum. Some couples might simply find the knowledge that their partner is engaging sexually with someone else enough to enjoy, whereas others might take a more direct approach. The latter is generally the case with cuckolding, whereby the male in the committed relationship is in a separate room listening to the activity or more generally, sitting in the same room and watching the intercourse unfold. It is important to the cuckold niche that the third party (usually called the bull) understands that the partner is present. Some cuckolds like to sit in a cupboard while they watch, as to feign sneaking in on the action or being submissive enough to be placed there by the female.
The second aspect of cuckolding is the intimacy between the two people. It is important to note that while historically, cuckolding has always involved husbands and wives, more recently it has been accepted that those in a committed relationship can still indulge in cuckold fantasies. The vital aspect is that the two people love and care for one another very deeply: it is unlikely that someone would call themselves a cuckold if they were merely engaging in the activity itself as a sexual partner and nothing more.
The third party to the act, as mentioned previously, is generally called a bull. These are men that can be either paid or found online: whatever the source, it’s generally the case that they have no romantic attachment to either party and are simply there for the sexual element. Generally, bulls are very strong and powerful men with bodies that epitomize masculinity. For some that practice cuckolding, a large focus is placed upon the fact that the male in the relationship is unable to provide a sufficient level of sexual appeal, be it via mental or physical issues, in order to satisfy the female. Thus, she looks elsewhere in order to have her desires met and appreciated.
The levels of abuse that occur in cuckold sessions depend. Some men might like to just watch on and play with themselves while they see their partners engaging sexually with a third party. On the other hand, some might prefer their wives being very abusive and for them to be told how inadequate they are when it comes to providing sexual gratification. At the end of a cuckolding session, the male in the relationship might also be asked to ‘clean up’ after the bull. This activity is also on a spectrum of abuse, and can be performed with relative degradation or total humiliation.
The word ‘cuckold’ comes from a bird that is called a cuckoo. It is alleged that the female cuckoo bird has a particular habit of regularly changing her partner on a regular basis. There is evidence to suggest that the word first appeared in the English language sometime in the thirteenth century. In addition to its etymological link to the cuckoo bird, the symbol of wearing a pair of horns is also associated with the act of being a cuckold. This likely refers to the fact that in the reproductive process of a stag, if they are defeated by another male in a duel, they give up their partners and allow the stag that won the battle to ‘claim’ their mate.
In Chinese culture, a green hat is often associated with cuckolding due to the fact that in the thirteen century, men who were in the same house as women who offered their services as prostitutes were made to wear a scarf or hat that had a prominent level of green on it.